I am Ryan, Kim’s husband. I felt like sharing my side of our story in hopes that this would encourage those women out there whose husbands are not sympathetic. As you have read in other posts, Kim has been at this business for more than 3 years now. Things have grown beyond our wildest dreams! We now have more than 5,600 members on our team! As Kim has said before, she has tried other MLM businesses with little to no success. They just weren’t the right ones for her. They were much more heavily into home shows and sales. When she started working Young Living as a business, I was honestly not happy. There was a time or two that I almost told her to stop, but I didn’t. I think mainly because I didn’t want to be discouraging, and even when she started it was bringing in money. And she wasn’t going out every week doing home shows, so I was “okay” with the time requirements.
So fast-forward now about 8 months. She’s still working the business, still bringing in money, and it’s still growing. I was impressed, but still not hopeful that this would continue. Even though I don’t see long-term potential, I still encourage her. She had told me about how the oils had helped her with various things (e.g. support proper brain health, maintaining emotional stability, promoting restful sleep, etc), but I hadn’t really experienced them first hand. Then my accident…and I changed my tune! I saw the oils work first hand!! After that I wanted her efforts with the business to succeed! I still didn’t really see long-term potential (me quitting my job), but I wanted to be able to continue buying them and have them paid for with commissions. I didn’t truly understand that with YL, it’s a snowball!
A couple things I’d like to say about husbands…1. We need to see results. Better if those results are first hand! So if your husband is not fully embracing the oils, but isn’t opposed to them either, ask how you can help him. Look for ways to see if he will use an oils instead of another product. If he’s snoring one night, just put a couple drops of Valor on his feet if you can without waking him. Or putting a couple drops of Peace & Calming or Gentle Baby on your hand and placing your hand on his back as he sleeps. Then ask the next day how he slept. Use wisdom on whether or not to mention the oils. You know your husband better than I do. 🙂
2. If your husband is opposed to using oils work on yourself, something that he may notice. For example, if you have a particularly difficult week during a specific time of the month, look for oils things that may help to reduce the impact of those symptoms. Don’t tell him what you are doing, but do tell him your progress. If normally you are laid up on the couch for the week, tell him that you were able to get something done that needed done. If it happens enough, he will notice, so you’ll need to give it time.
3. As you are building your business and your commission checks are starting to climb, “accidentally” leave them where he can see it. Or plan a dinner out and while your out just say this meal is provided by your YL check that month. He will be impressed and when they get to a certain point he will start to want to help.
Finally, I just want to say, go slow. Don’t push, don’t get anxious. If you are gracious with your husband, he will come around. Some may just take more time than others.